I'm sorry that you feel that way, Mike. It was the intention of the article to get us to think about how we feel and our overall mental health when starting relationships in various stages of our recovery. The article does not promise to tell anyone "how" to have a relationship -- that is more the purview of psychologists and so-called relationship "experts" -- but rather promises to give a perspective on what it may look and feel like when we get closer to new people. I certainly know how difficult it is to engage with new people while negotiating a mental illness. I wish you luck with your future romantic relationships and hope that you are able to navigate them with professional help.