Great tips Beth. There is a new theory floating around at the moment which involves visualising a “positive completion” of the recurring nightmare story. It didn’t work for me, but it might work for others. It involves imagining, whilst awake, your traumatic story having a different, more positive ending (not sure if it works when you choose to have your revenge fantasies acted out upon the abuser!). Imagining for example, the abuser apologising and atoning, or your family being kind and supportive instead of victim-blaming and critical. Personally, I’ve learnt to live with the nightly nightmares by waking up, engaging my conscious mind, and recognising that the story is real but no longer true. If I stay in that half-asleep place, the whole night is lost, as you say. I soothe myself as I would a small child.