Hello DM,
I am Cheryl Wozny, author of the Verbal Abuse in Relationships blog at HealthyPlace. Thank you for sharing your account with verbal abuse and children. It can be hard to navigate youngsters as they often don't know how to act and look to adults for guidance.
For me, there was a time when my two older children acted awful to me and I had to limit my communication with them. Thankfully, as they grew and matured, and with some help from a therapist, they realized their behaviors toward me needed to change.
I encourage you to visit our Resources page here: https://www.healthyplace.com/other-info/resources/mental-health-hotline-numbers-and-refer… for some ways to find assistance in your region. Even talking to someone can help you process your feelings.
I wish you and your entire family health and wellness through your journey.